Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
So now that I have decided to enter into these feelings, be open to and be subjected to all that I have been avoiding, what now? If I allow myself to experience the tension of this, say a situation where I am afraid of being criticized, or making mistakes, or facing a task I am not very competent with, or just simply not knowing how to handle something I cannot control, what can I do?
Because we are so oriented towards taking a side to relieve the anxiety, whether it be to escape, make the other bad, make ourselves bad or any other such way of getting out of the tension, it is hard to be (t)here. One thing that can help is to try to suspend our prejudgments that insist that the same thing will happen every time. If we only see the same outcome with the same choices, we will be unable to create the space for any creative thinking to produce other perspectives, other possible solutions. In short, we need to be able to experience the tension to get out of this trap and find the necessary space for creative thinking, new solutions, and new perspectives. Attempting to solve or work with the situation in the same old way, will only perpetuate the problem and convince us that life will, rather cynically, never change. So try to watch for how you re-create the same thing. This will not help.
Thomas Ogden tells the story of a toddler who slipped in the bathtub and went under water, who was faced with his next bath. Terrified, he grips his mother tightly and they are at a standstill. The choice seems to be drown or hold on very tight. The mother suggests a tea party and the toddler asks her to pour him some tea (with the bathtub toys) and slowly (albeit some time) the bath might be experienced in another way. This infant metaphor is an important illustration for many transitions where anxiety is paralyzing, and how space needs to be explored to find a manageable and creative response to a situation where it has felt like there was no way to go...MY WEBSITE.
Friday, November 29, 2013
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Monday, September 23, 2013
There are a few keys to working with anxiety when going through it. One, is to try hard to not become identified with it. Just because you feel anxious, it does not come close to defining who you are. This takes some work to be able to learn to watch the anxiety, as Eckhart Tolle might say. Two, realize that the anxiety is more of a doorway into something deeper and more important within you. In other words, anxiety may be experienced along the way, but it is not the destination. Your ability to tolerate more anxiety as you watch yourself go through it, rather than being too flooded by it, is an important part of change and inner transformation. This is not always easy to do and can require someone to help us through these steps, but it can be done... MY WEBSITE
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Saturday, August 10, 2013
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
"What is right with you?" Part 15: Another word about medications, chemical imbalances...Can medications just be written off that easily?
Saturday, July 6, 2013
"What is right with you?" Part 14: Yes, but aren't some conditions the result of a chemical imbalance or genetics?
* Despite being able to measure neuro-transmitters, no support for chemical
imbalance has ever been found.
* Psychiatry is the only branch of medicine that treats "disorders" or medical
conditions with no known causes.
* Twin studies' correlations do not rule out environment and artificially inflate
results by double counting (proband) instead of pairwise tallying.
* Brain imaging studies do no support any consistent findings associated with